selfcare

Community Care vs. Self-Care

Whether you’re a caretaker, teacher, medical staff, entrepreneur, or barista - these past two years have been taxing on all of us. Life isn’t meant to be lived in isolation; we are quite literally wired for connection.

 

Self-care has become a buzz-word that emphasizes luxurious spa days + a “treat yo self” attitude. But true self-care goes beyond mani/ pedis + some extra time in the bath.

 

Taking care of yourself is a necessity these days.

Prioritizing your mental health over productivity.

Honoring your body’s need for rest rather than pushing through one more workout.

Setting boundaries around work to create a better work/ life balance.

 

Yet, no matter how tremendous your self-care routines are, have you considered your community care?  Who holds space for you when you need it? Do you *feel* that sense of community that can support + help take care of you as well?

 

In the West, we are determined to lean into the lone-wolf archetype - fiercely independent + staunchly opposed to help from others. But does that really serve us?

 

For most of us, the pandemic really stripped away our connections to community. And unless you were basking in your lone-wolf solitude, your community care has likely been lacking.

  

So I’ll leave you with these questions to reflect / journal on:        

- What is my self-care like right now? Does it need a little re-evaluation? Am I doing things to truly take care of my self?

- Am I blocking my own ability to connect with others in meaningful + vulnerable ways?

- Has my idea of community shifted since 2020? Do I even want to reconnect with my previous forms of community?

- In what ways can I reconnect with community + allow for their support?

Why I Journal

I journal to release the constant, running thoughts in my brain onto the paper. ⁣⁣

I journal to rewrite my own story. ⁣⁣

I journal to catch myself speaking unkindly to me. ⁣⁣

I journal to create, to heal, to grow. ⁣⁣

I journal to slow the fuck down. ⁣⁣

I journal for me - to mother myself + unlearn my past conditioning. ⁣⁣

I journal for my marriage - because it’s cheaper than therapy 🤪.⁣⁣

I journal as future me - she is bold, peaceful, kind, giving, creative, proud, and a badass boss bitch. ⁣⁣

These pages are a place for me to be unapologetically me. ⁣⁣

Want to journal but you aren’t sure how to start? Check out my journal, Me Here Now, here.

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Need some more inspiration for your journaling journey? Here are some of my favorites:

+ @the.holistic.psychologist - Dr. Nicole is the creator of the [FREE!] Future-Self Journal which allows for space to observe and change behaviors, thought patterns, and reactions so you become more aligned with your… you got it, future self!⁣⁣

⁣⁣+ @inspiredtowrite - Every time Amie posts, I am reminded that I am worthy of making art, deserving of rest, and that mothering myself on the pages is the key to healing. Her Compendium [$19.99] is a great tool if you aren’t sure what to write about in your journal. She offers 31 prompts to get you started!⁣⁣

+ @fiveminutejournal - This is how my journaling journey began! With the 5-minute gratitude journal [$24.95]. Each morning, you briefly share 3 things you’re grateful for, what would make today great, and your daily affirmation(s); each evening - 3 things that were amazing in the day and ways in which today could have been better. This is great for starting out because you’re given a simple guide to follow and it takes just 5 minutes each day! 

News Consumption for the HSP (Highly Sensitive Person)

We’ll talk about HSPs later, but I think we can all relate to the overstimulation of the news currently. It’s readily available at our fingertips on EVERY app we check. It’s in our faces + it’s devastating. I have ignored the news for years because it overwhelms me, but we (HSPs, white people, ALL of us) cannot turn away from it completely any longer. Here are some tips - if you’re an HSP, “overly” emotional, or just feeling drained these last few weeks - that may help with your excessive media consumption:⁣

+ Breathe. Right now. Five slowwwww, deep, belly breaths.⁣

⁣+ Hydrate. Seriously. Grab a glass of water right now.⁣

⁣+ Each time you open a social media or news app, set a timer for 5-15 mins.⁣

+ iPhone users: set daily limits/caps to your social media apps; I recommend setting not just a 1-hr time limit each day but also a limit between 9pm-10am (or whatever works best for your schedule).⁣⁣

+ Control who you follow + where you get your news from; choose news sources wisely + dedicate time to reading the actual news vs. scrolling endlessly on IG.⁣

+ Sit with your feelings after viewing a story — don’t push past + keep scrolling + to try and see the whole internet in one day.⁣

+ After your timer goes off, put the phone down + get moving; get outside - walk, stretch, breathe in the fresh air. Set another timer for rest/ play if need be.⁣

+ Fill your feed / time with humor + joy + self-care + connection with friends + etc. to balance the consumption of news/ tragedy.⁣

+ Show yourself some compassion + take breaks whenever you need to.