I crave to be
slack-jawed
hair frizzed
wild + free
belly soft
hands dirtied
unapologetically me
laughs loud
heart opened
no one else i’d rather be
”slack-jawed”
Sept 2023
I crave to be
slack-jawed
hair frizzed
wild + free
belly soft
hands dirtied
unapologetically me
laughs loud
heart opened
no one else i’d rather be
”slack-jawed”
Sept 2023
There’s a certain brand of loneliness that arrives after a divorce. A special kind of grief in having to allow yourself the time and space to mourn an entire life you had dreamt of. Though I guess that’s true of grief and losing someone to death as well…
I’ve been fortunate enough to have few people “close” to me die. So, grief is foreign to me. The way it ebbs and flows, nipping at my heels only on certain days… Your birthday. While I’m at a music festival. On a random Tuesday afternoon.
Grief invites a certain kind of sadness I had not yet experienced. Or had never given myself permission to fully feel for fear of it swallowing me whole.
Divorce - even when it’s completely your choice - conjures up memories of all the ways in which you both failed. How you both gave up trying and eventually the desire to make it work simply vanishes.
Anger and resentment returns when you see all the ways your partner has changed for someone else, something else. The things you craved and needed suddenly do become important when the gravity of losing you hits them.
Or maybe your worst fear is true after all. That they simply did not want to put in the effort for YOU. That it is, in fact, personal.
Tender heartache emerges when you choose to confront your own shortcomings and the pain you caused. When you have to open your eyes to the ways in which you fell short.
Transitions are wildly challenging and I know I’m not alone. I hope my story touches someone who’s in the midst of divorce or maybe you’re in a season of grief for another reason.
There’s little resolution or advice here. Just a simple sharing of my own current experience.
I do know that grief will shift and move and I must flow with it. So, I encourage you to do the same.
Create a support system for the days where grief feels like too much.
Know and trust that you can allow yourself to fully sit with any emotions that arise during your transition out of this relationship.
And hey, I’m so incredibly proud of you for following your heart, dear one.
I smell the earth beneath my toes
gifting me her strength
slowly extrapolating my woes
I hear the wisdom of her trees
sitting silently beneath them
she communicates with me in the breeze
I feel the flow of water around me
her cooling touch on my skin
allowing me to surrender so I can simply be
I see great Mother’s beauty + her gentle grace
she’s teaching me to slow down
+ reminds me it’s not about the race
I taste her sweet nectar in all parts of life
pleasure abounds when I open to it
finally allowing me to release my need for control + strife
Earth Mother
I smell you
I hear you
I feel you
Mother Gaia
I see you
I taste you
I am you
“Earth Loving”
May 2023
I miss us
And I miss you
I hate that you don’t feel it too
do you think about me?
I often dream of you
more than I care to admit to
I’m sorry for the things
I did + didn’t do
for all the things I put you through
bricks on chest
the vision of her where I should have been
me asleep alone once again
heart broken, ashamed
too many decisions already made
and I can’t help but regret mine most of the day
but these are the texts I’ll never send
the things I’ll never say
not to your face anyway
“Texts I’ll Never Send”
July 2023
some days are filled with
constant music
attempts at drowning out
constant thoughts
some days are bright and
I am safe
bad days
I am too scared
to stop and sit
to be swallowed by
my pain
but that’s the thing about pain
he always lingers
waiting.
behind curtains
patient. watching.
because pain has no
other plans, no where to be
he will come with you to
the store
he’ll tip tap
remind you
I’m still here
still with you
watching. waiting.
pain doesn’t mean to be
a nuisance
he just wants to say hi
hello
hey there
look at me
be with me
please
hear me out
don’t dance me out
or affirm me away or
tell me you hate me
just be with me
hold me
tend to me
then i’ll be
on my way
“Pain Says”
8/22/23
I hope you live.
Beyond surviving + hustling + worrying about next steps. Now is not the time for small talk, scrolling, anxious looping thoughts. I hope you are so nauseatingly present in each + every moment of your life that you are overcome with joy + love + gratitude.
I hope you live.
Read in the sun.
Paint a “bad” picture.
Get the tattoo.
Jump in the pool.
Laugh so hard your belly hurts.
Relax in a hammock.
Send the text.
Howl at the moon.
I hope you live.
I hope you live the life *you* truly desire. Despite the expectations of others. In spite of your own limiting beliefs about what you’re capable of.
Because this one precious life of yours is *so* short …
I hope you L I V E it to the fullest, dear one.
I am two, not one
Wild, entertaining, humorous
Life of the party
yet
Sensitive, quiet, overwhelmed
Judging to protect my energy
I am two, not one
Amazingly strong … powerful
yet
Soft, tender, loose
I am two, not one
Self righteous in all my knowing
yet
Never educated enough to
embody true confidence
“Two Not One”
12/16/22